Friday, June 14, 2013

I wrote the above poem after realizing that someone I knew , intimately and closely could, with a flick of a switch somewhere deep in their head simply oust her character, the character I loved and cared for, the personality I was used to and interacted with on a daily basis and become anyone of a number of characters that inhabited her body. Oh and before you rush into conclusions I should say that her condition was not in any way disturbed, mentally deranged or ill . She was just being herself true to a world she knew, behaving in exactly the predictable patterns her peers expected of her. She was merely being true to her time line, the world she belonged to in that persona. She had one for work , as perhaps you do. She had one for leisure, she had one for mommy, and she had one for old college friends. She had another for her night classes and she had one for the previous career she had begun before she met me. Of course it goes without saying that I felt a little left out when I realized this because I then asked the inevitable question of myself. Had she added another character to join the crew that inhabited her body. 
But the question soon fell away as our relationship developed and the normal dynamics of a loving relationship developed and in time we grew more committed to each other. Yet I could not forget the fascinating dance I watched as she juggled the people in her life and seamlessly interchanged the personalities, the demands, the level of patience and more disturbingly, the level of her humane responses to the other people in this hierarchy of importance.
A little wider reading since has informed me of what is quite a natural phenomenon in the human psyche, a phenomenon exploited by governments, teaching institutions, armies, dictators and educationalists the world over, the ability of human beings to compartmentalise their world and put away any disturbing thoughts into a place in their minds where perhaps they rarely visit or when they do venture there , they remain wholly there, without the encroachment of morals, ethics, God, family, or “appropriate behaviour”. When they are in the back room of their minds, they behave as someone else, a person their loved one’s wouldn’t recognise as Hans or Brunhilde, as Chris or Mona, as Esteban or Consuelo.
The question of who my beautiful, extraordinary partner was, fell away as our relationship became serious enough to marry , settle down and be together , our first born followed and happiness seemed the almost logical sum of all the domestic parts we had so painstakingly assembled. But the thought of my wife’s ability to compartmentalise her life never quite left me hence the above poem.
Then I began to realise that all was not as it seemed to be as rumours in our local church began to circulate of a mysterious member of congregation being involved in some seriously questionable behaviour on internet sites.
The rumours were rife and very condemnatory, salacious and scandalous suggesting that a member of our closed community was indulging in sexual and fantastical interactions with “others”, non believers even, on the internet. Quite how these rumours began I don’t know but they seemed to suggest that we look to our households and ask the question could it be one of us, is it one of our family and if so we should act to banish this brazen behaviour from the congregation and restore our purity and godliness. I knew well the results of these rumours having been born into the sect and watched as the witch hunts and febrile finger pointing led to banishments and divorces, heart ache and emotional catastrophes.
I felt disgusted by this, it was almost like the Securitate, or the Stasi of old East Germany were asking us to inform on our own family, the only difference was that the central scrutinizing committee were our own friends and in some cases family. I dismissed the rumours and gossip and continued with my everyday life oblivious to the fact that this was in fact happening in my own home late at night as I slept peacefully oblivious, under the impression my wife was actually working for a new company with East coast working hours.
Late at night she would tap tap away at her keyboard, occasionally I would hear a low moan, almost as if she was tired from her long days elsewhere at work in a architects office. Then one night, unable to sleep and a little frisky after months of no intimate contact I got up and crept downstairs hoping to make a hot chocolate and make love, hopefully somewhere a little more exciting than our modest lumpy bed but as I approached the office where we did our paper work away from home , the door was ajar and I could see the glowing screen from a distance, my wife’s back was bare and she was stood naked before the running video cam. Her hands were running across her bare front and her fingers exploring her most intimate self.
Self TWO.
Immediately I felt aroused and the thought of my wife being caught in flagrante in front of the video cam, engorged my senses. In flames of uncontrollable passion I crept up and slowly embraced her letting my warm soft hands curl around to her bulbous nipples, my huge member, fat and solid slipped between her already moist buttocks that she had fingered and brought to readiness and I slipped inside the crease of her bottom . She fell forward , letting her curly bangs loose down before her and I fell deeper into her tapping at her womb head , my member disappeared fully into the crescents of her buttocks and she moaned like I have never heard her moan before. I remember looking down at her naked back arched in front of the computer desk and thinking ” Is this my wife; my quiet, calm, family oriented wife…”? and I plunged further into her, threatening madly at her quivering flesh.
The screen was fully open to me now and there was the face of another woman. It took a second or two before I could discern the features by the light of the phosphorescent computer screen beaming its luminescence onto her surprisingly attractive and lithe body that glowed and moved in rhythm to our thrusting. She too was naked. It was the wife of our congregation leader fingering herself , naked and in deep ecstasy. All three of us continued for what seemed and age until we could continue no more as the voice of her husband, Rev John Thomas rang out from behind a closed door. ” Thelma are you ever coming …to bed or what?"

Friday, April 19, 2013


1. Great philosophers may have pondered on the subject for many a long hour in their caves or their terracotta pythoi as their young and nubile SPECIAL friend fetched them a cool drink from the agora cafe. But one thing they didn’t do was subdivide the human emotions to the point where all was one and nothing was all - the global choices available to today’s modern man are surely nothing if not a distraction amongst the gee-gaws and gizmos from understanding one’s own mind and heart. How much time does anyone have any more during the long and lonely nights of oncoming winters when the ipod is a switch away and the plasma T.V with it 500 channels of unstoppable crap ready to inundate any little hiatus in our busy lives and if your a snob and don’t own a goggle box because your superior to everyone else who is being led buy the stupid box, or the stupid markets, or the whatever distraction then maybe your a culture freak with a million classical cd’s or the radio giving you high brow distractions like Mozart to take you out of any reflective silence but if you done with all that then perhaps you like me can immerse yourself in cheap on-line travel care of your super fast broad band connection that can send you whizzing to whatever part of the world you wish to settle yourself into. Or if your communication skills , ( which seem to have escaped application to your nearest and dearest for so long ), are developed to a point of clarity and focus then maybe you can talk with some newly made buddies from the four corners of the earth.

  * Nowadays we can introduce ourselves as we wish - reinvent ourselves like the first American immigrants into something we aspire to, we can assume a shape, take on a role, become actors and the lead players in our own self written drama and all of this - on line; at the flick of a lap top switch we are no longer the oppressed, obese, bulimic, we are no more the thin anaemic , self doubting thief, or the low achieving caddy at the golf club, gone is the uncoordinated self tripping dancer. Hello to the new Prima Ballerina;  bid welcome to the maestro, the Don Juan, the Catherine the great, the Byron that lurks in the shadows of our personality . We are poets, writers, we are artists, contributors to high culture, we are original thinkers of tropical hue, masculine or feminine paragons of virtue, sexuality, romance and aspiration. We are lovers and castigators, we are political refugees, freedom fighters, we are everything we are not in our dull, whimpish realities where we are cowed and challenged , where we carry our real memories like scars and where we limp about our daily business hobbled by economic realities, families who deride our dreams, lovers who treat us like shit, or husbands who take our commitment for granted. For more than a few the online world of the imagination is a wonderland of release. Where we are finally released to fly, where we assume and angelic countenance, grow wings and take to the cyber skies as free as the bird in the wild blue yonder.
  * I for one believe that real culture as we know it is changing , changing for the better and soon the elitist world of the musician, the printed poet , the novelist and the philosopher is coming to an end. The ivory towers of academia will be stormed by original thinkers drawn from the lower echelons of society normally associated with manual labour, or the service industries. Soon the people who fixed the plumbing, painted the walls, pointed the bricks and tiled the roof will challenge the Professor and the Historian, the soloist and the pop star and some will challenge the philosopher to bring dynamic , original thinking to the world and ask us to face questions that the ancients just never had the tools to even come close to answering because their world was as fold, pliable, multi-layered as our modern consumerists nightmare is. we live in a world so complicated that there are now special philosophers who have come to the fore in an attempt to forge new ethics, new values out of the mess of consumerist madness that we have unleashed upon ourselves.
  * For me one of the most pressing questions for the modern man is whether love, as we understand it, can really be true if we find it on line or are we deceiving ourselves and putting our hearts and souls in danger by allowing ourselves to be misled by our ancient brain wiring which is set to face to face loving being subverted into believing that love or more to the point Eros, can be real and deeply genuine. Or is this feeling of deep attraction to strangers thousands of miles away a mere distraction from our boring everyday existence . Can we really love a human being we have never seen in the flesh, tasted or smelt,caressed or touched? Can we really trust language or a few video conferences to inform us of something so potentially seismic or are we just fooling ourselves with that ancient self deceiving ruse of “The grass is greener..the language better, the opinions clearer, the beliefs closer.”
  * Some say yes, we can genuinely fall in love ( whatever that is) and that the depth of that commitment can bring true grace to a life and i am sure there examples of perfectly happy people who have discovered a partner on line who are happy and fulfilled via this medium but was that love before they met or was it desperation, a final ditched attempt to subvert the reality of their physicality, their inability to communicate, or plainly put their fatal and irreducible body odour .
  * When Plato and the other great philosophers decided to try and put love in to types and understand what it meant to love one’s country, one’s neighbour , one’s ward of education or one’s family they decided that sexual love was Eros , the love between a two partners was basically sexual and if it wasn’t that then it fell into one of the other categories like Storge or love of one’s family, Agape  or love for one’s community and neighbour - more than likely it was Philia , a deep abiding friendship. Now we have another to add Cyberlove - a place were love is sub-sectioned yet again into something approaching some if not all of the above classical definitions. Cyberlove can indeed be sexual, hence the online video world, it can be friendship explored via language and beliefs, it can be communal as between say a community of believers. But what it can’t be until the flesh is tasted and the body odour savoured is Eros.
1. Great philosophers may have pondered on the subject for many a long hour in their caves or their terracotta pythoi as their young and nubile SPECIAL friend fetched them a cool drink from the agora cafe. But one thing they didn’t do was subdivide the human emotions to the point where all was one and nothing was all - the global choices available to today’s modern man are surely nothing if not a distraction amongst the gee-gaws and gizmos from understanding one’s own mind and heart. How much time does anyone have any more during the long and lonely nights of oncoming winters when the ipod is a switch away and the plasma T.V with it 500 channels of unstoppable crap ready to inundate any little hiatus in our busy lives and if your a snob and don’t own a goggle box because your superior to everyone else who is being led buy the stupid box, or the stupid markets, or the whatever distraction then maybe your a culture freak with a million classical cd’s or the radio giving you high brow distractions like Mozart to take you out of any reflective silence but if you done with all that then perhaps you like me can immerse yourself in cheap on-line travel care of your super fast broad band connection that can send you whizzing to whatever part of the world you wish to settle yourself into. Or if your communication skills , ( which seem to have escaped application to your nearest and dearest for so long ), are developed to a point of clarity and focus then maybe you can talk with some newly made buddies from the four corners of the earth.

  * Nowadays we can introduce ourselves as we wish - reinvent ourselves like the first American immigrants into something we aspire to, we can assume a shape, take on a role, become actors and the lead players in our own self written drama and all of this - on line; at the flick of a lap top switch we are no longer the oppressed, obese, bulimic, we are no more the thin anaemic , self doubting thief, or the low achieving caddy at the golf club, gone is the uncoordinated self tripping dancer. Hello to the new Prima Ballerina;  bid welcome to the maestro, the Don Juan, the Catherine the great, the Byron that lurks in the shadows of our personality . We are poets, writers, we are artists, contributors to high culture, we are original thinkers of tropical hue, masculine or feminine paragons of virtue, sexuality, romance and aspiration. We are lovers and castigators, we are political refugees, freedom fighters, we are everything we are not in our dull, whimpish realities where we are cowed and challenged , where we carry our real memories like scars and where we limp about our daily business hobbled by economic realities, families who deride our dreams, lovers who treat us like shit, or husbands who take our commitment for granted. For more than a few the online world of the imagination is a wonderland of release. Where we are finally released to fly, where we assume and angelic countenance, grow wings and take to the cyber skies as free as the bird in the wild blue yonder.
  * I for one believe that real culture as we know it is changing , changing for the better and soon the elitist world of the musician, the printed poet , the novelist and the philosopher is coming to an end. The ivory towers of academia will be stormed by original thinkers drawn from the lower echelons of society normally associated with manual labour, or the service industries. Soon the people who fixed the plumbing, painted the walls, pointed the bricks and tiled the roof will challenge the Professor and the Historian, the soloist and the pop star and some will challenge the philosopher to bring dynamic , original thinking to the world and ask us to face questions that the ancients just never had the tools to even come close to answering because their world was as fold, pliable, multi-layered as our modern consumerists nightmare is. we live in a world so complicated that there are now special philosophers who have come to the fore in an attempt to forge new ethics, new values out of the mess of consumerist madness that we have unleashed upon ourselves.
  * For me one of the most pressing questions for the modern man is whether love, as we understand it, can really be true if we find it on line or are we deceiving ourselves and putting our hearts and souls in danger by allowing ourselves to be misled by our ancient brain wiring which is set to face to face loving being subverted into believing that love or more to the point Eros, can be real and deeply genuine. Or is this feeling of deep attraction to strangers thousands of miles away a mere distraction from our boring everyday existence . Can we really love a human being we have never seen in the flesh, tasted or smelt,caressed or touched? Can we really trust language or a few video conferences to inform us of something so potentially seismic or are we just fooling ourselves with that ancient self deceiving ruse of “The grass is greener..the language better, the opinions clearer, the beliefs closer.”
  * Some say yes, we can genuinely fall in love ( whatever that is) and that the depth of that commitment can bring true grace to a life and i am sure there examples of perfectly happy people who have discovered a partner on line who are happy and fulfilled via this medium but was that love before they met or was it desperation, a final ditched attempt to subvert the reality of their physicality, their inability to communicate, or plainly put their fatal and irreducible body odour .
  * When Plato and the other great philosophers decided to try and put love in to types and understand what it meant to love one’s country, one’s neighbour , one’s ward of education or one’s family they decided that sexual love was Eros , the love between a two partners was basically sexual and if it wasn’t that then it fell into one of the other categories like Storge or love of one’s family, Agape  or love for one’s community and neighbour - more than likely it was Philia , a deep abiding friendship. Now we have another to add Cyberlove - a place were love is sub-sectioned yet again into something approaching some if not all of the above classical definitions. Cyberlove can indeed be sexual, hence the online video world, it can be friendship explored via language and beliefs, it can be communal as between say a community of believers. But what it can’t be until the flesh is tasted and the body odour savoured is Eros.